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The Love of Melinda and Jim

I try to watch Ghost Whisperer every time it's on. Every network, every re-run. I know it sounds silly that I watch re-run after re-run, but I just really love the show. As I'm typing this, it's on TV. PS - I'm really upset that it got cancelled on CBS.

The thing I love most about the show is the relationship between the main character Melinda Gordon, and her husband Jim Clancy - they explained why she kept her maiden name in one episode but I forgot why.

With every episode, it makes me wonder why Jennifer Love Hewitt and David Conrad aren't together in real life because their chemistry is so believable. In the early episodes, it's clear they're in love because they're newly weds and they kiss in every episode, they're always saying cute things to each other, and they're just happy being around each other.

He was the only companion that accepted her the way she was. He didn't know if her gift of seeing and speaking to the dead was real or not. He loved her for her. He's always there for her when troubles arose and always talked her through her worries. And she did the same for him - although she sees the ghosts, so most of the time it's her troubles in focus.

They have believable sexual chemistry as well. They're hot for each other, it's as easy as that and they never let the spark die. I get a smile on my face and sigh a little with each moment of showing of affection, and no I don't just mean the "sexual" parts.

But I absolutely hate the episodes where Jim is dead. If you don't watch the show, it's a really complicated story line, but I guess I have to explain a little.


Jim gets shot, dies and won't go into the light because he doesn't want to leave Melinda alone. He realizes he can take over someone's body when they die because their spirit is no longer occupying the body and they've crossed over. Jim enters the body of a man (Sam) being resuscitated, and takes over his body when Sam crosses over. Melinda doesn't want him to do it, but he does because he can't live, for lack of a better term, without her."My road, my journey is with you. It is you. It's always been that way and that was the choice I made when- I cannot let it go just because I'm dead." - Jim

When he comes to, Jim can't remember who is, and the episodes drag on for awhile with complications with Sam's parents and former girlfriend in the picture. All the while, Melinda and her friends are trying to get Jim to remember who he is, but has a hard time because he has physical memories, such as scents, that interfere with Jim's memories, like wanting to have kids.

The episode where Jim finally remembers who he is really makes me happy. Because it was amazing to see how hard Melinda worked to get her true love back, and the excitement of both of them being able to be together again melts my heart.

They get "remarried" so that the world knows that Melinda and "Sam" are married and Jim says this -

Jim - This wedding, this marriage is just about us...it's just you and me, the way it's always been. Well, almost the way it's always been. But I've always been married to you, Melinda Gordon, no matter what comes between us, I always will be, no matter what's waiting for us. and no matter what we can't foresee - I promise you...This isn't a wedding, it's just a renewal of what we've always had.
Melinda - Of what we'll never lose.
Jim - Because you can't kill love.

Ugh, I'm a sap.

But my point is this.

I don't care if the show has great writers.
I don't care that it's not real, but it makes me hopeful that the love is real.
It's an example of what real love can be like between two people.
It can be romantic.
Steamy.
Caring.
Affectionate.
Strong.
Unbreakable - no matter what life throws at you.

That's what it's about.
It's about finding someone who you can confide in and who will always be there for you.
No matter if they're they're having a hard time crossing someone over the other side.
No matter if they lose their memory by taking over someone's body.
No matter what weird circumstances.
The love is there.
Always.

Jim: I do know one thing.
Melinda: What?
Jim: I'm ready no matter what's ahead for us. I'm ready to go down any road with you. Go through any door. I know that now more than I ever did.
Melinda: That's all I need.

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My Personal Philosophy - Relationships

Everyone should have their own philosophy on things in their life. This is mine about love/relationships. I try to follow it, but I'll admit, it's not always that easy.

Wait the heartache out.

But never wait out for someone when they don't want you.

Open yourself up to others because you never know how amazing something might turn out to be.

Be willing to forgive. The day may come when they realize you're the only one they will ever want to be with again.

Forgive them, but make a wise decision.

If you think it's worth it, go for it.

But never settle for less than you deserve.

Don't ever settle for someone who can't decide if they want to be with you or not.

Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you.

I'm a Good Friend

I love my friends.

And I love being there for my friends.

I try to be the best friend anyone could have - it may sound like I'm trying to be an over achiever, but I like being there for someone when they need me.

I like the feeling of being needed.

I like the feeling of helping someone in need.

It makes me feel good that someone comes to me to talk to.

I'll always be there for my friends when they've been dumped.

When they want to go out.

When they have need a girl's night.

When they get engaged.

When they have a baby.

Or when they just need a friend to talk to them when they're feeling like the world is crumbling beneath them.

When they want to reminisce on the old memories.

Or when they need to forget about the past.

And I try to find the right words to say to make their day better.

I try to find the right words to say to make them feel better.

To make them get over an idiot that dumped them.

To make them know they're better without them because they are.

Because my friends are the best friends anyone could ask for, and when someone decides to leave their life, I know what to say.

I know in my head that they need to be with someone who wants to be with them.

I know in my head that the advice I give is true, but it's hard for them to accept because rejection sucks.

But even though I put on serious face...

Even though I let them know the advice I give is the advice I would follow...

Even though I make being okay look easy...

I'm not that strong.

I'm not made of bricks.

It takes me time to heal.

And sometimes I just want to cry.

Because I still miss him.

I still miss him even though I shouldn't.

I know I should be with someone who knows what he has when he has me.

And maybe that someone is still out there.

But it's hard for me to want to be with anyone else.

Because sometimes I don't want anyone else.

But I pretend to be okay.

I pretend like I'm fine with moving on.

I pretend like I have moved on.

Because my friends need me to help them through their pain.

Because my friends need someone to talk to.

Because my friends need a shoulder to cry on.

And I do that because I try to be a good friend.