Friday, September 24, 2010

The Love of Melinda and Jim

I try to watch Ghost Whisperer every time it's on. Every network, every re-run. I know it sounds silly that I watch re-run after re-run, but I just really love the show. As I'm typing this, it's on TV. PS - I'm really upset that it got cancelled on CBS.

The thing I love most about the show is the relationship between the main character Melinda Gordon, and her husband Jim Clancy - they explained why she kept her maiden name in one episode but I forgot why.

With every episode, it makes me wonder why Jennifer Love Hewitt and David Conrad aren't together in real life because their chemistry is so believable. In the early episodes, it's clear they're in love because they're newly weds and they kiss in every episode, they're always saying cute things to each other, and they're just happy being around each other.

He was the only companion that accepted her the way she was. He didn't know if her gift of seeing and speaking to the dead was real or not. He loved her for her. He's always there for her when troubles arose and always talked her through her worries. And she did the same for him - although she sees the ghosts, so most of the time it's her troubles in focus.

They have believable sexual chemistry as well. They're hot for each other, it's as easy as that and they never let the spark die. I get a smile on my face and sigh a little with each moment of showing of affection, and no I don't just mean the "sexual" parts.


But I absolutely hate the episodes where Jim is dead. If you don't watch the show, it's a really complicated story line, but I guess I have to explain a little.


Jim gets shot, dies and won't go into the light because he doesn't want to leave Melinda alone. He realizes he can take over someone's body when they die because their spirit is no longer occupying the body and they've crossed over. Jim enters the body of a man (Sam) being resuscitated, and takes over his body when Sam crosses over. Melinda doesn't want him to do it, but he does because he can't live, for lack of a better term, without her."My road, my journey is with you. It is you. It's always been that way and that was the choice I made when- I cannot let it go just because I'm dead." - Jim

When he comes to, Jim can't remember who is, and the episodes drag on for awhile with complications with Sam's parents and former girlfriend in the picture. All the while, Melinda and her friends are trying to get Jim to remember who he is, but has a hard time because he has physical memories, such as scents, that interfere with Jim's memories, like wanting to have kids.

The episode where Jim finally remembers who he is really makes me happy. Because it was amazing to see how hard Melinda worked to get her true love back, and the excitement of both of them being able to be together again melts my heart.

They get "remarried" so that the world knows that Melinda and "Sam" are married and Jim says this -

Jim - This wedding, this marriage is just about us...it's just you and me, the way it's always been. Well, almost the way it's always been. But I've always been married to you, Melinda Gordon, no matter what comes between us, I always will be, no matter what's waiting for us. and no matter what we can't foresee - I promise you...This isn't a wedding, it's just a renewal of what we've always had.
Melinda - Of what we'll never lose.
Jim - Because you can't kill love.

Ugh, I'm a sap.

But my point is this.

I don't care if the show has great writers.
I don't care that it's not real, but it makes me hopeful that the love is real.
It's an example of what real love can be like between two people.
It can be romantic.
Steamy.
Caring.
Affectionate.
Strong.
Unbreakable - no matter what life throws at you.

That's what it's about.
It's about finding someone who you can confide in and who will always be there for you.
No matter if they're they're having a hard time crossing someone over the other side.
No matter if they lose their memory by taking over someone's body.
No matter what weird circumstances.
The love is there.
Always.

Jim: I do know one thing.
Melinda: What?
Jim: I'm ready no matter what's ahead for us. I'm ready to go down any road with you. Go through any door. I know that now more than I ever did.
Melinda: That's all I need.

9 comments:

  1. I love ghost whisperer too and was so sad that it got cancelled. Honestly I love the ghost stuff, but it really was Melinda and Jim that made me keep watching the show. I wish it was still on!

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  2. I absolutely agree on every word you said and i cried for hours when Jim died.I could not watch
    the episodes when he doesen`t remembered he is Jim.It got worst when sam`s girlfriend showed up.I hatet the writer`s for killing jim but i loved where the story went when Jim finally remembered and Jim & Mel find out about the pregnancy. Gret article of yours.

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  3. It is so sad that they cancelt the show.But i have to say i had this bad feeling this could happen after the relationship between love hewitt and her co-worker kennedy came between the loveley jimmel-relationship.I was sooo
    disappointed after nearly every episode in season 5 that there seemed to be no love,no romance no feelings between mel & jim.It got better at the last few episodes but it was too late.The loyal Jimmel-Fans had turned their back on the show because of the lost Jimmel-Moments and no passion between jim & melinda.It is truly sad that love hewitt could not let her real-life-relationship out of the show.She showed chemestry with eli but no more chemestry with her on screen husband.

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  4. it's true...i agree that her and jamie kennedy's romance made jim an melinda's love fizzle. so sad.

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  5. Hi Kacie,I am Sofia from Germany and i wrote the last 2 comments.Thanks for unswering my comments.Sorry if my english is not as good as it was in school but i hope you understand my point of view.Inever liked J.Kennedy.He is a bad actor and ugly.I really love David Conrad on the other hand,especially as Jim Clancy.I could never understand what Jennifer saw in Kennedy.I hope that CBS will change their mind and bring back Ghost Whisperer one day.I am sure the show will be as great as it was in the first 4 seasons especially now that kennedy isn`t Jennifer`s boyfriend anymore.I have signed every petition to bring back this great show and i wrote 1000 times to CBS like many other fans as well.I really miss Jimmel and the only thing i can do is going to fanfiction.net every day so i can at least read about them.But the sadness is still there until we see them again on our screens.

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  6. I hate J.Kennedy & J.L.Hewitt for their relationship,because that was the reason we barely saw some sweet Jim & Melinda moments.Not to mention their stupid bracelettes!!!

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  7. I totally agree on everything you said.It is so sad that we can`t watch another episode every friday night.Friday night`s are not the same anymore without Ghost Whisperer.I miss seeing D.Conrad & J.Hewitt they were the perfect couple.

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  8. I love this passage so much and i agree with it so mush! <3

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  9. Oh my gosh! I love ghost whisperer so much! I became super obsessed with it and I got all five seasons for christmas. Now I'm watching it from the beginning.
    I <3 Jim!

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