I cannot fathom the fact that someone can forgive an act of infidelity. How can one have the thought process of negativity = untrustworthy = undeserving of forgiveness, yet somehow they're forgiven. Why would you want to continue a friendship or relationship with someone who screwed you over more than once? Why would you even think they deserve a third or fourth chance?
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Sometimes the thought of starting anew sticks in your head. Sometimes the thought of "maybe they have changed" conquers your knowledge of why this person is unforgivable. Sometimes that person is stuck in your head without permission and you have no way of getting them out.
There will always be that one person who has changed your life in dramatic ways that it's impossible to forget them. They came into your life and turned your whole world around. In your mind, everything is perfect because you can't help but to think about how much better everything became when they walked in your front door.
You constantly think about how much you care about them. Those moments of bliss repeat over and over in your mind and they erase all the bad you know about them. You become heartbroken because you know things are different from the beginning. Then you forget about the pain because you want to believe the person from the beginning is still there.
You know why things ended, you understand that they are bad for you. He is bad for me. I don't deserve to be treated that way because I deserve better. You don't deserve me.
Stop remembering why you were happy with them and remember all the bad things. The bad conquers over the good because the ratio of bad to good is 4:1. Remember why things ended. Something bad happened...really, really BAD. Wake up, and move on.
It's true. Don't think I could ever forgive a cheating novia. What would probably suck more though is realizing that you've wasted so much time and invested so much trust in that person, and I think that's why some people don't want to let go yet.
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